Politics Aside

Dear Daughters of Mr. and Mrs. Kavanaugh


Dear Miss Margaret and Miss Eliza Kavanaugh,

You do not know me, and it’s probably difficult to trust anyone these days when it comes to your family and strangers with the media party that has become your life lately.   My name is Heather, and I’m an English teacher and writer from New Hampshire and also a wife and mom to an 8 year old son and 7 year old daughter.   I don’t have the right words to explain to you in terms that make sense why so many people are angry at your dad right now.  This is very confusing, and your parents have, without a doubt, tried to shield you from the angry, political world in its current status.

When Donald Trump became our President, I was sad because I didn’t agree with his political beliefs.  Yet, I felt really sad for his and Melania’s son Barron, who was also just 10 years old at the time and had to hear a LOT of negative press about his parents.  To their credit, they’ve done a decent job allowing him to have the privacy EVERY kid should get to enjoy regardless of your parents’ status.  I wrote this letter to him, and I’m sharing the link with you here https://heatherkrill.com/2017/01/25/an-open-letter-to-barron-trump/ because you might have some connections.    I also disagree with your dad on a lot of issues, but of course that isn’t your fault.  Nor is none of what you read in the media your fault.  Your parents both love you a whole lot, something which is evident in every article I’ve read about your dad and mom since he appeared on Donald Trump’s list of Supreme Court Nominees.  So regardless of the people they were in high school or college or even in the years before you were born, they are your parents now and want to protect you above all else.

Your dad and I disagree on a whole lot politically, but I hope that throughout this nomination process he has been encouraged in raising you with a powerful voice.  None of this has been very easy on your mom or you, or the women at the center of this investigation– and that’s the crappy part of having a parent in the limelight.  All eyes on you all the time.  But they want you to have a normal childhood, and so I hope you get that–you girls deserve that–  despite your dad’s nomination to the United States Supreme Court.

I remember the first time I realized my parents were real people before they became my parents and what a crazy thought that was.  It was also around the same time, my friendship group started having more of an influence over the human I was becoming beyond my family unit.  It was during those middle school years when I started to think about why I believed what I believed and that sometimes differed from what my mom or my dad sometimes wanted me to believe.

As you grow older, you will probably think about these last few weeks and wonder about choices your parents made at different moments of their youth and why they did what they did or said what they said.  You might also challenge some of their political view points as you develop your own.  You might want your dad to believe something different, and he might not and that will be very frustrating.  Just know you are not alone in the world of daughters and sons.  However, you also might be able to convince your parents to change their views about different topics you feel strongly about because you will have done your own research and homework and met other people along your life experience to influence what you believe to be true.  All hope is not lost even when your parents disagree with you.

Your mom and dad are very smart, understanding the advantages they both worked for and been given and share with you now; and from what I’ve read, they are raising you with voices that should always demand to be heard– as daughters, as Americans living in privilege here in the United States, and the children they want everything for.  Although they wish to protect you in your childhood, remind them that coping skills are needed to navigate the world you will be teenagers and adults in.  May you be strong enough to also build your own sense of independence, freedom of thought, and confidence.  Make sure people get to know you aside from being the Kavanaughs’ daughters, and although you may be born to your parents– you do not have to grow exactly like them.  I’m thinking of you both and the journey ahead.


PS.  There is so much left to say, but those words should be left up to your mom and dad.

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